The loss of a loved one creates all types of emotions, so what can I expect?
There is no right or wrong way to feel. Everyone deals with the loss of a loved one differently. While psychologists can identify stages one may go through. The order and severity in which they occur varies by each individual person.
Many people report a state of shock. One where you feel frozen and unable to make decisions or take care of your own basic needs. Some operate on autopilot, meaning you carry through each day in a numb state relying on habits to teach you what to say or do next. Others are the positive, life loving types who celebrate rather than recognize the pain underneath. No matter what order you experience the emotions there are certain general things you can expect to go through.
For example, it is possible that you will feel some anger. This could be over the loved one leaving you alone. It could be anger that they were taken far too soon. Or perhaps at the unjust nature of it all. A lot depends on how your loved one died. If it were a violent or suffering death, then anger may surface for any of the above reasons.
Another possible feeling is one of deep grief. This may feel like sorrow filled with some regret over a life unfulfilled or a relationship unsatisfied. Or it can be positive mourning filled with hope and gladness that life for that person is no longer one of pain. No matter whether your grief is sorrow or relief, you are normal for what you are experiencing.
Many start with denial by carrying on as though a loved one has just slipped away on vacation. Or perhaps with a feeling of numbness that denies the incident altogether. Denial can be a normal defense mechanism in times of great distress. There is no shame in going through a phase of denial, as eventually your mind will be ready to feel the pain and learn to deal with it in your own way.
No matter how you begin your journey of healing from the loss of a loved one, know that memories will never cease to amaze you at the bond shared. As time goes on, the memories will elicit less and less sadness. Fortunately, there is no time limit on sadness. You can feel it for as long as you are willing to let it stay.
So be encouraged. And remain positive that this too shall pass. While you may not be ready to let go, knowing that no one is forcing you to do so will be of great relief. What I can expect, is different for us all. Grieve as you need to in your own personal space and time.
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